Just imagine: You are sitting in the doctor’s office and listening.
Then You hear the diagnosis. In conclusion, You want to hear what it means, then You get the answer:
maybe 6 months
On Thursday afternoon I received a call from my Dad. He shared with me what He just learnt: His Brother has been diagnosed with a form of cancer and the doctors think He has not much time left. Maybe six months. 6 months.
I could not help, but imagine what I would do if I would get similar news myself. Various ideas are rushing through my mind:
- go out and accumulate as much money as possible so they are going to be safe at least for a while;
- spend as much time as possible with the family;
- teach my daughters as much as possible;
- try things I missed to try;
Then I recognize: I do not know.
I just do not feel being ready to leave. I cannot imagine I will ever be ready to leave, but one thing is for certain: if a man can be more or less ready to leave, I am definitely the latter and worse: absolutely not ready to leave.
6 months can be too long to complete certain tasks. If You would spend 6 months to go pick up groceries that is an awfully long time. But 6 months left before leaving forever? That is just nothing. And not even sure if it will be 6 months. Maybe only five months. Maybe one week. Maybe this is the last hour. That is very scary.
This can’t be true I think, but then I remember that yesterday jogging did not go very well and I was wheezing a bit this morning walking on the stairs. Are these symptoms that can be symptoms for something major or are these nothing to worry about? This can’t be true for me I think again…
Not that I am so important or so super smart, but I just don’t feel that I have given everything I could and wanted to my daughters yet to ensure that they are ready for life. And for a selfish reason: I want to spend as much time with them for as long as possible.
This thought (spend as much time with them for as long as possible) is a very interesting one. Working from home I often end up telling my daughters I still have to finish my work and I will play with them as soon as I finish this very important email or that very important report that I have to send out to very important customers. I am ignoring (hurting) the ones I am doing all this for… Chasing a vision, that if I do all these very important things, then I will be important for my company and then I get money that can help me to afford things I want to afford to the people who are really important for me.
Let me think about this for a second: how many of the currently open emails and reports I would still finish, if I would get the news “6 months”? We both know the answer.
In Your case, how many of the things You currently have on Your “plate” would You still finish? I am not judging, just make sure You answer will all honesty.
Sure it is not possible for everyone to drop everything from now on and focus only on the things in life that everybody really enjoys. But I strongly believe, that it is very possible, to re-arrange our current life as much that we can have more fun and do more things that really count and make Us feel better prepared to leave when the time comes.